Let’s get one thing straight: impostor syndrome is a liar. And yet, so many women—including myself—have felt its grip. That sneaky voice in the back of your mind whispering, You don’t belong here. You’re not good enough. Someone’s going to find out you’re a fraud. It’s all false.

Why Do Women Feel This Way?

For many of us, this feeling didn’t just appear out of nowhere. It’s a result of deeply ingrained societal norms, workplace dynamics, and the messaging we’ve absorbed over time. Some key reasons include:

• Lack of Representation – When you don’t see many women in leadership, it’s easy to feel like an outsider.
• Higher Standards – Women are often expected to be overqualified just to be seen as competent.
• Perfectionism – Many of us hold ourselves to impossible standards, making us feel like we’re never “ready.”
• Bias & Doubt – When people question your authority or expertise, it can chip away at your confidence.

Who Makes You Feel This Way?

Sometimes it’s an overly critical boss, a dismissive colleague, or even subtle microaggressions in the workplace. Other times, it’s internalized pressure from ourselves. The reality is, no one is walking around actively doubting you as much as you are doubting yourself.

People Don’t Think About You as Much as You Think

Harsh truth? Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to be obsessing over whether you “deserve” to be here. Example no.1: That meeting where you felt like you stumbled over your words? Everyone else was thinking about their own talking points. Example no.2: That presentation where you were convinced you bombed? Chances are, people barely remember the mistakes you replay in your mind. We give our perceived flaws way too much power.

How to Overcome Impostor Syndrome

So, how do we kick impostor syndrome to the curb?

• Reframe the Narrative – Instead of thinking, I don’t know enough to be here, remind yourself, I am here because I ADD value.
• Keep a Success Journal – Document your wins, big or small. Seeing your progress on paper is a powerful confidence boost.
• Find Your Support System – Surround yourself with mentors & peers who uplift you and remind you of your worth.
• Say Yes Before You’re Ready – Men do this all the time. Growth happens outside of your comfort zone.
• Talk Back to the Doubt – When that little voice creeps in, call it out. Thanks for your input, but I GOT THIS.

Impostor syndrome is a myth designed to keep brilliant women from stepping into their power. The next time you feel like you don’t belong, remind yourself: I DO belong. I AM capable. And I’m just getting started. For additional help checkout our expert sessions to find comfort in relaxation, movement, and human connection, under the tab BuildHer Sessions.